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Frederick Buechner wrote:
“If we only had eyes to see and ears to hear and wits to understand, we would know that the Kingdom of God in the sense of holiness, goodness, beauty is as close as breathing and is crying out to born both within ourselves and within the world; we would know that the Kingdom of God is what we all of us hunger for above all other things even when we don’t know its name or realize that it’s what we’re starving to death for. The Kingdom of God is where our best dreams come from and our truest prayers. We glimpse it at those moments when we find ourselves being better than we are and wiser than we know. We catch sight of it when, at some moment of crisis a strength seems to come to us that is greater than our own strength. The Kingdom of God is where we belong. It is home, and whether we realize it or not, I think we are all of us homesick for it.”[i]


In his book 'The Jesus Tribe', author Ronnie McBrayer wrote timely words for our own season of Advent.
“Violence promises us something we all deeply desire, something we genuinely want; violence promises us peace. Violence promises us, that in the end, when the last battle is fought, the last bomb is dropped, and the last enemy is slain, we will have what we always dreamed of – safety, a world without suffering, death or bloodshed; a world at rest. Yet, these are the very things Christ offers with the Kingdom of God. A world where the lamb will lay down with the lion, where swords are beaten into plowshares, where mercy and justice flow down like the waters, where every tear will be wiped away from our eyes, and where there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. Christ and violence seem to offer the same final result, the two being competitors for our allegiance.”[i]


If the truth about heterosexuals is told, not everyone fully embraces the tenderhearted monogamy model.

Matthew 5:27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Herein lies the common ground challenge to being sexually faithful. Adultery is essentially a problem of broken and distracted spirits. Go back to the Oneness of God. He speaks to Israel and calls their worship of other gods, adultery. Idolatry is adultery.
If someone cheats on you physically, emotionally or with pornography the relationship is polluted. It cannot remain sacred and trustworthy. The relationship is no longer special.
Everyone faces the demanding perfection of God’s Law and squirms. The Law reminds everyone that we are all infidels. Infidelity comes quite easily and any hope of change is found in Jesus. If we are to be new creations in God’s eyes, it will not come through our ab…


Eunuchs were men who had been castrated as slaves, so they would not interfere with the master’s harem. For the sake of understanding Jesus' heart, let me compare them to those who have been damaged sexually by abuse and those who do not want heterosexual union. Jesus describes how the excluded are part of the Kingdom of God. Jesus starts by acknowledging that male/female marriage is not acceptable to everyone.

Matthew 19:11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”
The question of discipleship is whether we accept that sexual fidelity is for everyone. Is there a purity and singleness toward God that anyone can surrender to? Can we remove the sexual politics and follow the Leader?
Jesus says…


I believe there is good news, but we won’t get to it by picking political sides or reactionary arguments. If Jesus has good news for the entire world, it will include everyone in the spectrum of sexual preferences and behaviors. The good news is for singles, marrieds, divorced, abusers and the abused, lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, Transsexual, Transgender, Intersex, Queer, Questioning, 2-Spirited, Allies, cheaters and virgins.
I do not expect everyone to agree with my understanding of the Scriptures, but let me make my case. I believe that there is common ground for everyone when it comes to sexuality and the gospel. The primary question is not ‘what does God have to say about this or that behavior and orientation, but rather what does it mean to follow Jesus?’
Is there a common path of discipleship or does it have different rules for different people? If we are to see the common path, it will be found in the Scriptures. Let’s start with the notion that God created sexuality and part of His …